"When a mother somewhere forgives herself for being human,
earth exhales a little."
Asking for help when you are struggling with this new role as a mother is the first step of a road that can start to feel more manageable to walk on. But it is also the hardest step. Our society has made us believe that we need to be perfect – especially as mothers. It should come naturally, we should be great at this new job, we should feel happy, we should look amazing right after birth and simply wing this monumental task of looking after a human being we made. And we should do and be all this without any help. We should and can have it all.
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The truth is that we have forgotten how to live in a village. The village that supports us throughout pregnancy and especially after we have given birth to look after us and our new baby. The village that would make us healthy food, look after our baby so we can rest and recover from pregnancy and the incredible event of having given birth. The village that would pass on wisdom from other mothers of how to care for ourselves and our baby. How to adjust to this new role of being a mother. The village that would catch us when we fall.
I too thought I could do it all on my own when I became a mother. I believed I needed to be perfect, the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect everything. And I was crushed by the incredible task of having to do it all on my own. Through my own journey of recovering from PTSD and PND after I had my first baby, I realised just how much more support new mothers need on this journey into motherhood. I feel truly passionate about supporting pregnant women and new mothers through my counselling and support services, so that their experience of motherhood can be a more enjoyable one. I will be your village.
NEW service
Holistic Birth Debrief with somatic healing
Find Healing and Peace
We all have certain expectations of how our birth would go. There are hopes and dreams attached to how we envision entering this new life of becoming mothers. When things do not go to plan or even just slightly differ from our expectations, it can leave us with often complex feelings of loss, sadness, disappointment and feeling like we have somehow failed.
Even for mothers who have been through birth before, every birth is a new experience. There can be questions about what happened, confusion, or trauma and fear.
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You may have experienced something unexpected, or perhaps the birth didn't go as you envisioned. But now there's a tiny newborn to care for, a body to heal, exhaustion to cope with, and all the usual daily responsibilities to manage. It’s easy to push aside any unanswered questions or uneasy emotions and simply move forward. After all, isn't that what women have been doing for generations? Having babies and just carrying on?
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Not fully understanding what happened and why can leave you with feelings of guilt, shame, and failure, leading you to question things like, "Why did I allow that?" or "Why didn't I say no?"
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Birth debriefing offers a safe and supportive space where I can listen to your story, helping to fill in any gaps. By understanding what happened and for you to have a space where you can be heard how you experienced the birth - and not what your medical notes describe what happened - can be the first step to healing and being able to transition into motherhood more gently and held.
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The session is 2 hours with talking through your birth experience with the option to add a Reiki healing or a treatment with Himalayan sound bowls to incorporate the healing of the body.
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The session can take place either at your home, online if only talking is preferred or in the premises I work in Currie or Leith. Additional travel costs might apply for travel outwith the city boundaries of Edinburgh.
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Cost for the session is £150
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